Finding a mate is as much a faith endeavor as anything else in life. That should not be surprising. Few events change your life more radically than getting married, and God is very interested in your choice. You probably already know His main concern—that you only consider marrying a committed believer (2 Corinthians 6:14; Amos 3:3).
Some people want to marry and hope everything will become “happily ever after” later. They might think they can change someone else. Or they want to claim someone for a mate without considering the other person’s will. None of those scenarios will work. You cannot, and God will not, override another person’s will. Man was created by God to make his own decisions. A successful marriage starts with both partners dedicated to the Lord and in agreement that their marriage to each other is right.
With these guidelines in mind you can base your prayers for finding your mate on scriptures from the Bible knowing that “faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Romans 10:17). You can believe for anything the Word of God promises. We recommend you study and meditate on the following scriptures daily as a basis for your stand of faith:
Genesis 2:18: “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.’”
Proverbs 18:22: “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.”
Isaiah 34:16: “…none shall want her mate [in fulfillment]; for the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and His Spirit has gathered them.”
Matthew 6:33: “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
Psalm 37:4: “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.”
1 Peter 5:7: “Casting the whole of your care—all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all—on Him; for He cares for you affectionately, and cares about you watchfully.”
Continue to think and order your life in line with what the Word says. Be a doer of the Word. Find out who and what you are in Christ. As you speak forth God’s Word and agree with it, you open the door for God to move on your behalf and bring that special person across your path. God’s peace in your heart will confirm who is the right person to be your mate (see Colossians 3:15).